Ralph Montague on Sleep, Stress and Longevity

[00:00:00] Welcome to the Man Up Man Down podcast presented by Folk of Baluda and David

[00:00:10] Pausey. We discuss the pressures and challenges faced by men approaching

[00:00:15] middle age that we're often too embarrassed to speak about with our

[00:00:18] friends. You can find us online at www.manupdown.com. Enjoy the show and don't He evolved from working within the anti-aging industry for over 20 years. This couple was hands-on experience of living life to the full in his younger years, wanting to maximize his health and his current years and surviving a near-death experience, which we're going to talk about. That prompted Ralph to put his knowledge and expertise into a series of informative and

[00:01:40] entertaining self-help books, which we also will talk about because we already started

[00:01:44] talking about that. dating this girl, it's only the second date, we had a couple of drinks at her house, by all means only a very few because we were getting up early to go to the beach the next day, went to bed. And then around about midnight that the Saturday morning went a bit different to how I expected. And yeah, that's that. In a nutshell, I'm quite grateful really, because there was, like I said, there was a kettlebell that was used as a doorstop.

[00:04:22] So it was just picked up, hit me across the head, longevity clinics. So we had three of those Cardiff Bristol and Newport. And then I realised over the years, there's quite a lot of stuff. A lot of people come in for aesthetic treatments that I amazing. I at one point had over a hundred thousand pounds worth of longevity devices in my house. But then I got a bit obsessed.

[00:07:01] I like spending five hours a day doing longevity,

[00:07:04] which one could then argue, well,

[00:07:06] what's the point?

[00:07:07] Just don't know,

[00:08:23] but it were there and there's a high water content if they're boiled in water and that I believe has probably led me to pee around about four so I didn't quite make it to half five. So I will massively

[00:09:40] have tangent I just realised with brands such as General Electric,

[00:11:01] Imperial Brands, DHL and Pepsi.

[00:11:05] However, this year I'm putting a big emphasis on growing my private coaching practice good night's sleep or you know conversely you know if you are sort of struggling with insomnia or disrupted sleep you know what are your tips? So one of my favourite questions this is the top five from somebody who is perhaps sleeping okay but would like to get more sleep they realise that they can perform at a much higher

[00:12:21] level.

[00:12:22] I find if I didn't get a good night's a sizable, a reasonable meal, if you just the light snack was different. But if it's a proper meal, four hours, it really makes such a big difference. Now, this is aimed at men, obviously.

[00:13:42] I believe women have this issue about five,

[00:13:45] ten years after us, but peering.

[00:14:41] me now next time outside the pub.

[00:14:45] Just hold this for me. Yeah.

[00:14:47] Yeah.

[00:14:47] So on occasion, I will, if I'm really busy or away from home, I will go into KFC

[00:14:53] in McDonald's and I'm like this hiding my head thing is still not going to take a

[00:14:56] picture of me in the drive thru, aren't they?

[00:14:59] So generally I save my alcohol consumption to once a fortnight, Friday or Saturday. but i thought the crop into your mind and then wolf and the thaws go on loop and then you lose like an hour or so you're breaking a deep sleep in rm cycles and that's the really key bit and you never know like some people put the lights'm looking at paper and paper, it doesn't radiate bright light. It's not, it is stimulating, but you know what you expect. It's not unexpected stimulation. So at the same time,

[00:17:40] every night, and then on the weekend, I appreciate it working gives you headaches. So it gives me headaches. It's going to, like, mine, not all, but a lot of people like that. So like dimming the blue light down, you can actually work for longer and much better. I don't think this out because I did the blue light from a sleep perspective.

[00:19:00] I only think that out about three months ago, because I'm like, why am I getting

[00:19:05] headaches after an hour and a half, two hours solid work?

[00:19:07] I can usually go longer than this.

[00:20:03] and the other activities that happen can be missed and you perhaps might not have as many brothers

[00:20:05] or sisters then.

[00:20:08] Let's go off on that tangent then because,

[00:20:11] you know, if I say in the prep talk,

[00:20:14] you abstained from sex for a year.

[00:20:16] It was supposed to be 12 months.

[00:20:17] I did slightly fail.

[00:20:20] I think it was 10 and a half months.

[00:20:22] I noticed how I got the half in there as well.

[00:20:25] I should have said just under 11 actually,

[00:20:26] but then said it was dating apps were distracting me from actually getting on writing the books because it takes a long time writing the books, writing courses, building a business. The last business I built was like 10, 15, 15 years ago or something.

[00:21:43] I'd forgotten starting a business from, don't take it home. It's a lesson I've learned. So when on the

[00:23:02] dissertation apps, you're unsure, they're three or four women thought I was the most bizarre male they've ever met in their life. Is there something wrong with me? Don't you like me? So yeah, it was good. It brought me a lot of time back.

[00:24:21] I've had quite a few you were you masturbating during that time or was it just complete abstinence?

[00:25:40] So even better than masturbation something that I didn't even know was possible it makes A lot of my friends thought I was lying. It is a genuine thing. And it's quite interesting first date conversation. Girls are like, what? Some girls are like, can you show me how? I'm like, yeah. That is, that was one of the most insightful, although I say this, like the more important things,

[00:27:03] it was just mind-blowing when I found that out.

[00:27:05] So I wasn't actually masturbating. after about 12 months I've tested loads different things like I feel like every evening I was well sometimes twice a day lunchtime in the evening I would be just testing different soundtracks different thoughts I've got it to the point where I can do it my eyes open don't just all about, you know, eating the right thing as well. Is it a vegetarian diet? Is it a keto diet? It's a certain diet you live by to live longer. There is. I'll put a caveat in this. When it comes to diet, I'm not an expert on this. So there's people out there who know far more than I.

[00:29:41] And it's not also a passion of mine either.

[00:29:43] Obviously, I find interest at directly, level of expertise is often directly healthy. And then regardless, it could be the most tastiest food in the world. Do you want to spend an hour prepping food? I don't. So it has to be quick. So my diet is very simple. There's porridge and blueberries or porridge and honey. Organic, full fat milk has to be full fat because I want it processed the least have organic chicken with organic black well let's just say everything's organic so I won't keep repeating organic because people get fed up of that word. Black lentils they're really they're amazing for your black lentils with chicken fillet mix that up then the following week or

[00:32:21] following the third night because I get two portions in each so I buy every other now and then, like this how crazy and rock and roll I am with cumin, however you pronounce it, cumin powder. And that is, that's probably my main meal. I'll have that three, four times a week for lunch. You just feel amazing after it. No bloating. I swear then, a lot of energy. I was gonna say, f-ing loads of energy. And you just feel great from it. That's

[00:33:43] a really good diet before the government started printing loads of money and we have this rampant inflation is 3%. This is not an economic but my background is investment banking. 10%, it's been 10% for so long. If you look at the value of a pound in 1901 to early 2000s, one pound back then is equivalent to about 120. So the inflation now has gone up on the

[00:35:01] food about 50%. So what that would cost now, is very correlated to control what you can control. So if you can have an egg to a wedding and it pisses down, you just go we'll have a backup in this hall in the function room of this hotel or country house

[00:36:22] wherever. And you can control that. So you accept reality and

[00:36:27] control what you can control that will get rid of most I was making a cup of coffee, she'd be on the side in the kitchen for her, and she'd be rushing around like a blue-ass fly. Like, Kerry, all we need to do is go to bed half an hour earlier, wake up half an hour earlier, and none of this happens. And she's always late as well. And I actually added this chapter into my book, Stop Stressing Out, because of Kerry.

[00:37:41] So I'm very grateful.

[00:37:42] It's stressful living with her, but I mean oh yeah well I mean well where can we

[00:39:02] if we want to buy your books or you know read We have the sleep workshops and the stress workshops which are on the longjavityclinic.co.uk. Awesome. I mean, we put all that info in the show notes as well. But um, thank you very much. What an episode. Thanks very much Ralph. Right in there and

[00:40:22] definitely gonna go and read your books. Things are sleeping

[00:40:25] to us the first time I went in time.

[00:41:22] There's so many different steep things. I've just took delivery this week

[00:41:24] of official wireless device.

[00:41:25] So I'm testing that at the moment.

[00:41:27] And yeah, there's loads of different things.

[00:41:30] Always testing, always exploring.

[00:41:32] Pretty fascinating if I'm perfectly out on this.

[00:41:34] Brilliant.

[00:41:35] Thank you, Ralith.

[00:41:36] Great stuff.

[00:41:37] Pleasure speaking, gentlemen.

[00:41:38] Thanks for listening to this week's episode.

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